Are You Paying Attention?

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A connection of mine posted the photo above on Instagram today and it really really caught my attention.  

How simple is that? ‘Pay attention to who you’re with when you feel your best.’ (Author Unknown at least to me)

I pondered this post as I sipped a latte under the loudest speaker ever at any Starbucks (I happen to love that). The faces of so many of those badasses in my tribe started popping into my mind. Like a slide show of still headshots they came, one after the other after the other. 

I really couldn’t help but think how EXTREMELY blessed I am to have so many people who represent those who bring out the best in me. I know that’s not the case for everyone. And the only reason I know that is because that hasn’t always been the case for me.

I was going to say that as a coach and speaker, I have the opportunity to breathe life into people’s dreams. The truth is, we all have the ability to do that. 

At every interaction, at every moment of the day we can be offering something, anything, that will let someone know they are in the most perfect moment to manifest whatever it is they want into their lives.

For some of us, building those belief muscles came from necessity or desire. We decided (yes decided) that we were going to start believing in our dreams without waiting for anyone else’s permission to do so. 

In fact, for those of us who had to build those muscles on our own, there is usually a lot of ‘oh no you can’t’ going on around you. If you’re not a wuss, you will use that as fuel; you’ll go out there and accomplish what you are destined to accomplish because it is your dream to accomplish it.

For those of you who have had ‘personal trainers’ to help you build those muscles, that’s a blessing.  Not only is the process much more tolerable but you are put on a fast track when you work with these people. These are the mentors, coaches, cheerleaders and supporters of your dreams no matter what.  If you have that, good for you.  Hold on to it, embrace it, nurture it and make sure you are reciprocating.

But what happens when you are in this first category of feeling you simply don’t have that support around you.  Well… you BUILD it.  We have to be intentional about our dreams and part of that is surrounding yourself with people who bring out the best in you, people who believe as much in your dreams as they believe in their own. 

Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend most of your time with.”  I remember the first time I read this I nearly fell out of my chair.

But think about it, who are your five?  I’m not suggesting you get judgey and start thinking your shit don’t stink, but really, look around.  Who are they?  Believe me: your tribe affects your vibe.

I know that every day I count my blessings that I get to coach for a living. There’s really nothing like sitting down with someone who may come to you stuck or confused or simply not knowing what they want to do but feeling like their soul is calling them for more.

When you have the honor of being able to coach someone out of that confusion, out of that quicksand and into the light of possibility – oh man – that’s where the magic happens.

Like everything else, when there’s progress you know they’re moving in the right direction, you know they’re reading, you know they are surrounding themselves with the right people.

 But every now and then, for whatever reason, they may hit a plateau, they may fall into a slump and you can always tell right away. Even their voice sounds different. 9 out of 10 times, when you start digging, they’re very likely not being mindful of the people they are exchanging energy with.

 It’s as plain as day. Enthusiasm may be contagious, but so is negativity.  You can be the most positive person in the world and if you’re constantly surrounding yourself with low vibration individuals, you’re screwed. I’m not saying you shouldn’t love them… just do it from a distance.

“Be picky about who you keep around you. Personalities, words and traits do rub off naturally.” – Sonya Talcai

So when you are feeling your best, look around and make a mental note of who you’re with.  Then be very intentional about doing what you can to be around them, follow them, (not follow follow them around like a stalker you know, I mean follow on social) participate in what they’re doing, cheer them on and allow them to cheer you on (believe me they will). 

Put yourself in situations at every opportunity where your enthusiasm will always be optimal. This will help you propel your dreams to new heights at lightning speed.

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